One from the heart as world campaigners say ‘our children are for life’
It’s a year since Coronavirus killed off Parental Alienation Day for many of us … and this year’s event a few days ago was low-key.
But things still happened across the world, sadly with very little coverage. So lets try and put that right. If you have any pictures or thoughts on PA DAY, send them to us at the preservation society and we will publish them.
In the meantime, in this story, our hearts still march on…
The Heart of Hope Family Tree has grown stronger in the year after Parental Alienation Day was brought to its knees by coronavirus.
There were still moves to mark the event all over the world. But it couldn’t be what it was hoped to be, sadly.
One organiser of PA Day said: “Due to the global COVID-19 pandemic this year, we are encouraging all who want to still raise awareness to blow bubbles at home and take photos or video’s and post them online.”
And Andrew John Teague, from D.A.D.s and NAAP, pushed on with the heart of hope campaign. He said: “The virus was hitting a lot of events and many people were left disappointed – however, the heart of hope event will survive one way or the other.
“The idea is one heart for each child – there’s no cost and we can give you the heart colour you choose.
“I only put children’s first name and the tree and there are seven different colour hearts and five different colour ribbons. I don’t put any siblings names together to avoid any controversy. No two children from the same family are together – but they are all on the tree and they all share the same problem, absent or controlling parents.
“And the questions any parent wants to ask I will write on a huge banner and when this virus crisis is over, I’ll go to London with the questions and take the hearts with me.”
April 25 was to be Parental Alienation Awareness Day in the UK, USA, Canada and Bermuda and many other parts of the world.
And the event happened again on that date a few days ago. This awareness day is part of the global campaign over parental alienation.
The campaign said – and the Preservation Society wholeheartedly agrees – parental alienation needs to be a recognised form of child abuse and psychiatric harm punishable within the criminal justice system.
‘Both children and parents have a right to private and family life, so why should one party be enabled to interfere with those rights?’
But due to the absence of a real definition PA has been characterised by CAFCASS as: ‘Constantly badmouthing or belittling the other parent; limiting contact; forbidding discussion about children; creating the impression that the other parent dislikes or does not love the child’.
Andrew put it this way: “One of the most important things that needs to be addressed is the children’s emotional and psychological health and well-being.
“Of course, everyone looks at safeguarding children from different forms of harm.
“Forms of harm like physical, sexual and neglect.
“More often than not the emotional and psychological impact on the children is due to controlling parents and family courts.
“Children don’t simply throw away a parent, grandparent or whole half of a family. This is systematically and strategically done by bad parents (grandparents new partners) and family courts.
“Children who went through it a decade ago are now knocking on the mental health door (suicidal self harming alcohol and drug abuse failing in the simplest tasks criminal and sex exploited and more).
“And so the patterns continue – and just like today’s children, tomorrow others will be knocking on the mental health door. That means more young people run the risk of suicide.
“Children every year being dragged through the family courts and getting their future mental health shot to pieces. They are poisoned, not simply just by a bad parents, but in a big way by the whole family court process.
“Cafcass will do in 15/20 minutes what a well-trained child psychologist would take weeks to do.
“What makes Cafcass so amazingly special? I will tell you – being left to their own devices, to do what they want and answer to no one. Accountability zero!
“What special training do Cafcass undertake? I shall tell you none! Here we have untrained used-up social workers, the failures of the rat race, playing god with children’s lives.
“Many many parents are thrown to the side directly because of Cafcass and social workers, because it’s easier to target the targeted parent and protect the abuser.
“A good start would be to disband Cafcass and completely remove them from the family courts certainly keep them well away from children.
“Kids – everyone talks kids but really how many actually give a toss about the kids?
“Kids are for life to enjoy being kids not pushed to the bitterest of ends sadly very sadly too many times this happens
“Children need us everyday to save them from the tomorrows.”
Family Tree
I tell you now that I don’t understand
Why everybody gives a big hi-damn
Oh where I’m going to
Don’t mean a thing to you
I see you sitting in your masquerade
I’d love to pour you some of my lemonade
And get it off alright
We’re caught in an early night
I know you hate me so, but I ain’t gonna go
I’m staying here all right
I am your family tree
I know your A to Z
This is a secret proposition lay your hands on me
Not gonna talk about darlin’, its so neighborly
I see your hands are shaking but
My heart is breaking me down
Its a pretty day and I’m gonna get alright
I lost my head and you ain’t nowhere in sight
I see you got it all wrong
I got no calls on my phone
I just keep holding out, until I find a doubt
That you ain’t coming home
I am your family tree
I know…
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