Father and son … memories of Andrew’s dad and the jealousy that took him away

It’s time to make a change, don’t relax, don’t take it easy … the cat’s been out of the bag for decades

By Andrew John Teague

My dad, rest in peace. Never got to go to his funeral.

Found out my dad had passed six months after when I phoned my mother to tell her I was getting engaged.

My mum and dad had split years earlier, a bitter split and court battle. But my dad had my oldest sister with him.

Many years ago my dad won the case for my sister to live with him Me and my father did get back in touch, but not for very long.

My dad’s new wife did not like the fact we had a relationship again.

I know my dad wasn’t in the best of health but it was nothing that couldn’t be fixed. His new wife though was a twisted woman who even turned on her own daughter.

A jealous woman.

The point is, we often see people using the label Parental Alienation – yet, when this wasn’t even my parent or guardian – and I was 17 years old – this was a twisted person who didn’t want to share my dad.

My dad, I know, didn’t reject me. I know my dad loved me and he knows I love him too.

Bad behaviour, that’s the problem.

Seventeen years old and I knew my dad was fighting illness. (The illness wasn’t what my dad died of).

Articulate, that’s the word. It’s a word that doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with truth or even common sense.

Let’s not beat about the bush.

Articulate can simply be a very well put together way of stating a LIE!

Articulate can mean an explanatory way of putting bullsh*t in front of people.

Articulate can mean people have the use of language to manipulate others.

Articulate can mean this is how I can undermine someone else.

Articulate does not mean truth or indeed fact.

Just means some can bullsh*t in a posh way …

FACT

I didn’t have any schooling – no gcse’s or other qualifications.

I went through care.

The real-life experiences and I had to go through the most horrendous things ever.

My dad was my dad.

He had children who loved him. He had a step daughter who loved him too. His wife was the one with issues…

I had not long turned 18 when my dad died.

21st century and still parents wrangle in the family courts. look for ways to batter each other.

And now the battleground of choice is social media.

Social media is a very good place. But it is equally a very bad place indeed.

We can NEVER EVER forget the damage done the kids.

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