One day you’re there – the next you’re gone. How does this affect our children?

Children’s Mental Health Week, 2021, encouraged children to express themselves and share their feelings … here Andrew John Teague, from NAAP and D.A.D.s, discusses how parental alienation can damage our children.

The worst thing about contact denial is, without a doubt, not being able to see or speak to your children.

But can you even begin to imagine what it must be like for your children? One minute you are there. The next you are gone.

Sadly, sometimes this ends up getting  the parent into trouble. And any police involvement, even without conviction, helps the aligned parent in family courts.

Control and manipulation are the key tools available to the aligned parent. The ultimate control being that of the children.

We are not talking about a microwave, kettle or TV! We are talking  about children’s relationships and how they are ended or disrupted. Desperate parents also look to social media to see if there is anything, any news, any updates about their children there.

So, how can we, as parents, help out children to avoid  mental health problems because of it all?

This is where it gets tricky.

But we as parents can play a huge part.

Attached you will see an illustration how to support your child’s mental health.

Remember though, I said this is where it gets tricky – children’s mental health, cognitive behaviour, emotional, behavioural and physical support. These are the things in life children need from their family.

Here is the tricky part for any of the absent parents who are not allowed do any of the above. Imagine being a parent being told you can’t let your child know you love them, you can’t let your child know you miss them, there goes emotional attachment and a child potential thoughts of being abandoned.

Joining in with things such as football netball swimming any other forms of sport, impossible, when you can’t see your children. There goes physical.

Set an alarm doing homework, playing games of education, teaching your children, helping them develop through the years.

Not on your Nelly. Not when you can’t see them. There goes cognitive.

Helping to teach them right from wrong, helping to guide them, helping them to know their boundaries, ensuring we have Mum and Dad.

No life nope. There goes behaviour.

Sometimes a child will feel better talking to one parent about some things and another parent about other things. This is another blank when one parent is missing.

A fail. A lapse in support.

Cutting off a mum or dad, grandparents and family can be catastrophically damaging for any child’s mental health. It’s time the likes of Cafcass, guardian lawyers and judges stop shrugging their  shoulders and using the excuse it could be emotionally harming  to reintroduce an absent parent. Especially when the child’s mental health is  at stake.

Cutting one half of a family from a child leaves a huge void and severs half their heritage.

Unless there is risk of significant harm to children they should be in contact with both parents, both grandparents and both families. Family courts should be ashamed of themselves for hiding behind the children.

As Sir James Mundy said at the end of of 2019, the Forgotten Children. Something I’ve been saying for nearly 6 years – the forgotten children.

Used by ex partners, family members and  shielded behind the likes  of social workers, Cafcass, guardian lawyers and judges. In other countries Cafcass and guardian lawyers names may vary at the outlook  and the shame is the same all over the world country after country after country shambolic barbaric draconian systems destined to fail destined film children.

Desperate parents searching for any scraps anything just to know how their children are …

Shocking

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