Author: Leigh Banks

I am a journalist, writer and broadcaster ... lately I've been concentrating on music, I spent many years as a music critic and a travel writer ... I gave up my last editorship a while ago and started concentrating on my blog. I was also asked to join AirTV International as a co host of a new show called Postcard ...
The end of Moston history..?

The end of Moston history..?

Moston’s historic flats land – Hough Hall up for development

Another part of an historic suburb of Manchester is likely to be turned into a block of flats as it goes to auction with an estimate of £150,000.

Thousands of people in the small run-down town last year demanded crumbling 500 year old farmhouse – called Hough Hall – was rescued from being knocked down.

More than 6000 residents supported a campaign some time ago to stop the Grade 11 listed building collapsing after decades of neglect.

And, in a way, they might have got what they wished for… except it is being marketed as a development opportunity.

The auction details describe it as a “dilapidated Character Building and Site”.

It is dilapidated, yes … but it is much more than that. It is a Tardis of the history of Moston, once a thriving mill and brick-making area – a place known too for its linen and lace making, dye works, tanneries, print works and breweries.

But Hough Hall was also the home to one of Britain’s unsung heroes of art, the man who helped change the face of modern video, Roger Barnard.

ROGER BARNARD

The tragic story of his life and love was played out against the background of this beautiful black and white Tudor farmhouse which stand a few yards away from the bustling Moston Lane and behind an impressive Victorian school.

Last year the campaign caused so much interest in Moston that the original story by journalist Leigh G Banks was banned by Facebook for over-sharing.

Despite the interest though, Manchester City Council said at the time there was nothing they could do to protect near-derelict Hough Hall.

And, shockingly Historic England, which curates the UK’s history, referred the Leigh back to the council when they were approached for help.

https://leighgbankspreservationsociety.blog/time-to-get-in-a-huff-over-towns-hall-of-sadness/

The early 17 century hall is listed because of its wood wall panels, its gables and its wattle and daub construction. Yet it has been left to decay and, at some stage, has been used as a drugs den.

Roger Barnard and Heather Mawhinney took on Hough Hall and had grand plans for it, immersing themselves in the local community and holding open days to show off their ancient home.

Less than two years later though, they put the house up for sale for £200,000 and went on their way.

It has been abandoned more or less ever since.

This is what a spokesperson for the city council had to say: “As the property is privately owned, it is out of our jurisdiction.”

However, surprisingly, an Historic England spokesperson said: “Close contact with the local authority is vital at all times.”

She went on the add: “Communities can play an active role in saving their cherished heritage by being the eyes and ears on the ground. This might be through Heritage Watch schemes to prevent vandalism, setting up Friends Groups or launching a campaign. In some cases, local people have even established Trusts, taking ownership of vulnerable buildings and implementing solutions. Contact with the owner is vital too.”

Leigh G Banks, a former national newspaper journalist and now a broadcaster and editor of www.leighgbankspreservationsociety.blog said: “This is the response we’ve come to expect but it is only the opening shot – there are things that can be done to save a building like this and if people are willing to take on the fight our news organisation and the radio station will do all we can to highlight what is happening.

“The man on the street can win in these circumstances!

#moston #manchester #rogerbarnard #videohistory #grade11 #listed #history #development #houghhall

Old folk and the 21st century … Bob goes down to cyber town as Pablo finds success in foggy ruins of time

Old folk and the 21st century … Bob goes down to cyber town as Pablo finds success in foggy ruins of time

Less than a decade ago Dylan’s rapper grandson was becoming the wild-eyed cherub of the internet while grandad Bob was going around the world rasping out the likes of Things Have Changed, Love Sick and She Belongs to Me.

They were both doing well … in his early 70s Bob was still capable of filling places like London’s Royal Albert Hall and the Tempodrom in Berlin.

At the same time 15 year old Pablo was somersaulting round cyber space like a chubby faced enfant terrible wearing a Bob Dylan wig.

But, in a way, both of them were reaching crossroads.

Pablo had been quite unprepared for the fame game – and for the scrutiny he’d received as the grandson of the greatest songwriter of the 20th and 21st centuries.

For his part Bob was churning out his back-catalogue and grinning like the Joker at his adoring audiences … a river boat captain in a polka dot shirt and a thunder-clap broad-brimmed hat.

And it took almost seven years for them to make create a whole new world for each other.

Yep, things had changed.

Pablo Dylan — the son of Bob’s oldest, Jesse — has said: “My grandfather, I consider him the Jay-Z of his time, I love him to death.”

The comparison might have grated a little with Ol’ Grandad Bob. Jay-Z – real name is Shawn Corey Carter, born December 4, 1969. He is an American rapper, songwriter and record boss executive.

https://leighgbankspreservationsociety.blog/oh-no-its-definitely-not-in-the-genes-for-levi-dylan-who-wont-be-banging-the-drum-for-rocknroll/

But Bob was already looking at the new cyber world to launch yet another strand to his mercurial career and as clocks struck midnight on March 27 2020 as the world wrapped in lock-down sheets, he released Murder Most Foul, a 16:57 minute opus on the internet.

Little information was given except for a brief statement from Dylan himself: “This is an unreleased song we recorded a while back that you might find interesting.”

Not long ago Pablo released his EP .The Finest Somersault

And it showed that his rapping days are gone, ay leat for now, and he is now well and truly in to folk-rock.

And it demonstrated that just like grandpa, he is well steeped in historical figures like Homer, Edgar Allan Poe, Hank Williams, Charley Patton and Ulysses S. Grant.

“I loved The Clash as a kid and they were also my dad’s favorite band. Me and my cousins and little sister grew up listening to “London Calling,” “Train in Vain,” Jimmy Jazz.” All those songs really meant something to me as a kid.
“When I started doing hip-hop records, the Clash really made sense to me, because when you sample stuff you’re kind of doing the same thing that the Clash did. It’s like, “OK, let’s just put all these different elements together and together they make a piece that is unique.

“I grew up in a house with music playing all the time. The Clash and then Robert Johnson and Charley Patton. There were a lot of folk songs too.

“And then when I was six, I heard Eminem for the first time and it just blew my mind. It was so aggressive. I’ve never seen the difference between genres. That never really made sense to me. And now people call me a folk artist because I’m playing acoustic guitar. You know, Shakespeare wrote plays and sonnets and it was the exact same to him. It didn’t matter.

“People like to simplify things. That’s part of being a human, but I want the songs to speak for themselves. It’s something I debate a lot. Does any artist actually matter? Does Edgar Allan Poe matter? Does Shakespeare matter? Does Homer matter? Or is it just the work they made? I think it’s probably just the work.”

And Bob’s new work – released on YouTube – certainly worked hitting No. 1. on the US Rock Digital Song Sales (Billboard). His first-ever No 1 single.

Sadly, Pablo didn’t do so well but it is a major work from last year and deserves some real attention.

Bob has 11 grandchildren, and he drives a van with the bumper sticker saying World’s Greatest Grandpa.

#bobdylan #hisroyalbobness #pablodylan #murdermostfoul #folkrock #cybersales #happybirthdaybob #pablodylan #levidylan

CRY POVERTY AS BANKS HOLD BILLIONS MORE OF OUR SAVINGS!

CRY POVERTY AS BANKS HOLD BILLIONS MORE OF OUR SAVINGS!

As the banks cry poverty and say it will cost them a fortune to borrow money from their own shadowy lenders and we are all facing the looming threat of negative interest rates … what’s happened to all the dosh we’ve saved while we’ve been languishing in lock-down austerity?

Well, this is what the Bank of England had to say … In the UK, the Bank of England says bank deposits soared by £13.1bn in March, a record monthly rise.

And lock-down hasn’t been going on for just a month!

How much do the banks actually have of OUR money while they hold a gun to OUR heads?

This is what Patrick Collinson wrote in The Guardian:

https://www.theguardian.com/money/2020/may/29/half-of-britain-is-broke-and-the-other-half-is-richer-than-ever

TAGS: #bank #robber #bankrobber #banks #negativeintererestrates #our billions

Is Katie Hopkins an LBC (Loud Bitchy Cow) – or is she just another ‘failed’ Sugar babe?

Is Katie Hopkins an LBC (Loud Bitchy Cow) – or is she just another ‘failed’ Sugar babe?

Katie Hope-kins? Or Katie Flop-kins?

Katie Hopkins definitely has a nose for trouble but in this interview she says she doesn’t mind being called a sexist, racist, Islamophobic, a fascist or a big mouth!

Good on you Katie – at least your big mouth keeps you in the supposedly left-wing press you purport to hate so much.

Katie, who rose to prominence on the reality-TV show, The Apprentice, is known to be pro-Trump, pro-Brexit, anti-immigration and anti most things you can think of.

However, she’s just lost her LBC show – in fact she says, she’s been sacked from every job she’s ever had and has lost everything’ including her house to litigation.

And now she is being banned by elements of social media too!

But she says she is a good mum – which I am sure she is – and that what she does is speak her rather middle-class mind out?

So, watch this vid and tell us if you agree with her – and how many of you are appalled?

Watch this interview with Rodney Hearth and tell us what you think…

#sexism #racism #islamophobia #leftwing #rightwing #bigmouth #lbc #media #coronavirus

As suicide probe set to be revealed, dads talk about being bullied over children and money

As suicide probe set to be revealed, dads talk about being bullied over children and money

As the Preservation Society, D.A.D.s and NAAP prepare for a major investigation into suicide caused by family courts, we look at a recent report about bullying over access to children.

The report by legal experts revealed that more dads are becoming victims of bullying as their partners threaten to restrict access to children.

The shock report says men are being bullied over money, access to their children and are even being forced to stay in broken abusive relationships out of fear.

The trend has been reported by lawyers who said they are seeing cases of male clients who have become caught up in “unhealthy” coercive control relationships.

Coercive control is described as a pattern of behaviour which strips a victim of their  sense of self.

It is normally associated with female victims being cowed by loutish exes.

However, lawyers say there are a rising numbers of cases involving men.

According to research more than a third of men in the UK have actually admitted to being a victim of coercive control.

And more than half of respondent said they had experienced bullying or controlling behaviour – exactly same percentage as female respondents.

The research was carried out for IBB Solicitors, based in Buckinghamshire, by Atomik Research who spoke to 1,000 men and 1,000 women aged 18-65.

Kate Ryan, a family law partner at IBB Solicitors, said that in the last 15 years she has seen an increase in cases of both male and female victims from different walks of life including professionals.

She said: “I think there are more men coming forward now it is more acceptable and there is better support out there in terms of mental health and psychological support.

“There are also a lot of charities helping and generally society has less stigma around the subject so men are feeling there is less of an issue coming forward and speaking to police and lawyers telling them that they’re experiencing this kind of relationship.

“For some of them it has been going on for years and years. Even women don’t feel comfortable coming forward and as that’s becoming less of an issue for them, so it is for men. I think we’ll see a lot more of this as things go on.”

Ms Ryan said that regarding the trend of women “using” the child as leverage to threaten their partner into staying in the relationship is “100 per cent quite common”.

“Family courts, particularly where children are involved, are quite renowned with supporting women, and I think women know that and use it and know that their children are a hard-hitting point – yet that’s manipulation”.

She said that financial control, manipulation and checking up on where partners are also common features in coercive control relationships.

“The male element is coming out and undoubtedly there are other males like this who have experienced this and they will start to come out, easy with new definition of coercive behaviour.”

The research also found that amongst those who said they had experienced bullying or abusive behaviour, nearly half of men (48 per cent) said they did nothing about it – significantly higher than the figure for women (33 per cent).

It became illegal to subject someone to coercive control in December 2015 following landmark legislation which paved the way for new charges to be brought.

If you have experienced bullying – or know of someone who has taken their own life, please write to us in the box below.

TAGS: #parentalaliention #suicide #courts #family #dadsmums #grandparents

Truth for those who are abused – and then misled by experts

Truth for those who are abused – and then misled by experts

Peter Davies, from NAAP, has written this in-depth article on the domestic abuse Bill – it’s relevance to Parental Alienation. And how we can all be misled…

Peter Davis

In view of the horrible way countless vulnerable people were unscrupulously misled, it is essential that this article is shared as widely as possible.

First the bad news. On the face of it Philip Davies’ proposed amendments do not appear to have made it into the final cut. However, the devil lies in the detail. Therefore, we have done our research and homework to assess exactly what is happening with the Domestic Abuse Bill 2019-21 in relation to PA in particular. There are some pleasant surprises.

In this article we will outline what our research has disclosed. We have relied upon trustworthy primary sources throughout and we link to these trustworthy sites to empower readers and remove their dependence upon hoaxers, charlatans and purveyors of snake oil. Besides checking what we say you can use these sources in the future to check out any other parliamentary information, disseminated on-line, which looks dodgy, suspicious or just too good to be true.

OUR MUTUAL OBLIGATIONS


We regard the internet as a great privilege. Never before have we been blessed with access to such a wonderful platform to share information and never before has it been easier to check information. This is fine for those with critical faculties but since children’s critical faculties are a work in progress we monitor and regulate their internet access and even use protection software to ensure their online safety. One of the reasons parents and children become alienated is that they either have not developed critical faculties or they do not use them. For this reason, we are forever encouraging our members to ask lots of questions, to employ a healthy degree of scepticism and to evaluate all information critically. At a time when reliable information is so freely and easily available there are literally no excuses for being wrong footed by a scammer: particularly after you may have already been burned and should have learned from the first bitter experience.

Freedom of expression is NOT an absolute right. It comes with caveats and obligations. We all share a mutual obligation to ensure that what we say is correct and accurate. Everyone on social media now has an equal opportunity to be heard but that platform is not a license to spread rubbish across the land. It has never been easier to check facts therefore we owe it to ourselves and to others to treat each other with respect and to refrain from polluting the personal space of others with faecal matter. Integrity, honesty and self-respect are all equally as important. One person’s freedom and autonomy can often come at the expense of another person’s freedom and autonomy. Being protected from being force fed c**p is protecting my right to a peaceful and quiet life. In our view those that fail to respect the rights of others deserve to forfeit their own. This is especially true in relation to the thousands of vulnerable parents we help. We owe them a duty of care which involves doing the very best we can. Failing to check BEFORE posting falls a long way short of acceptable standards of professionalism and basic rigour. It is simply a lapse of integrity which is never acceptable.

Having said this, we are human and fallible. When we get it wrong we should accept responsibility, ’fess up’, admit our mistake and learn from it. Every alienated parent will have sad memories of someone they once loved who was never prepared to shoulder responsibility for their own behaviour. It is a repugnant trait which makes us wonder how these perpetrators manage to find someone to reproduce with in the first place. Sadly, the mask does not usually slip until you are on the hook and it’s too late.

RELIABLE SOURCES
The parliamentary library is always a great source of information for any current parliamentary business. This is where the MP’s go! The available briefing tells us that: ‘The Domestic Abuse Bill 2019-21 has completed its Committee stage and is due to have its Report stage and Third Reading on Monday 6 July 2020.’ Importantly it also gives valuable background: ‘The Domestic Abuse Bill 2019-21 was introduced to the House on 3 March 2020. Second Reading took place on 28 April 2020.

The Bill was considered by a Public Bill Committee over 12 sittings between 4 – 17 June 2020. The Committee took evidence from expert witnesses for the first two sittings. A range of external stakeholders submitted written evidence to the Committee.
The only significant amendment made during Committee Stage was the Government’s New Clause 16 (now clause 66 of the Bill) on homelessness. New Clause 16 was agreed without a vote. A number of minor and technical Government amendments were also agreed without a vote (these are not discussed in this paper).
There was only one division: on an Opposition amendment relating to the definition of “personally connected” in clause 2 of the Bill.’ ‘

Here is a link to the Parliamentary Library and a commentary about the Bill:

https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/research-br…/cbp-8959/…

THE GOOD NEWS
Secondly, here is the good news. S.76 of The Serious Crimes Act 2015 brought in the concept of needing to first be ‘personally connected’ in order for the offences of coercive control behaviour to be proven.
Here is a link:

http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2015/9/section/…/enacted

This Act has often been criticised for having an ambit which is far too narrow. This effectively barred any prospect of prosecutions succeeding once couples were living apart and separated. The new 2020 Act is intended to broaden the definitions of ‘personally connected’ and now also includes those who ‘have been’ in the various categories of relationship previously stated. The ambit of the new bill has been expanded to include those who ‘have been’ living together but no longer do so.

The new bill reads as follows. (see pages 7 and 8). It is essential to read the ‘Domestic Abuse Bill 2020: overarching documents’ in conjunction with the new bill in order to gain insight into the trajectory which is being set with regard to PA behaviours.

Here is a link to the current draft of the 2020 Act:

https://publications.parliament.uk/…/c…/58-01/0141/20141.pdf

Here is a link to the overarching documents:

https://www.gov.uk/…/domestic-abuse-bill-2020-overarching-d…

THE DOMESTIC ABUSE ACT 2020

The parts of the draft act which are likely to be of most interest to us are:

Part 1: Section 1 (3) (c) & (e) and Section 1 (5)
Part 1: Section 2 (1) to 2 (3).

These are quoted below. Sections in italics have been italicised by us.

Domestic Abuse Act 2020

Part 1 Definition of “domestic abuse”

Section 1: Definition of “domestic abuse”

(1) This section defines “domestic abuse” for the purposes of this Act.

(2) Behaviour of a person (“A”) towards another person (“B”) is “domestic abuse” if—
(a) A and B are each aged 16 or over and are personally connected to each other,
and
(b) the behaviour is abusive.

(3) Behaviour is “abusive” if it consists of any of the following—
(a) physical or sexual abuse;
(b) violent or threatening behaviour;
(c) controlling or coercive behaviour;
(d) economic abuse (see subsection (4));
(e) psychological, emotional or other abuse;

and it does not matter whether the behaviour consists of a single incident or a course of conduct.

(4) “Economic abuse” means any behaviour that has a substantial adverse effect on B’s ability to—
(a) acquire, use or maintain money or other property, or
(b) obtain goods or services.

(5) For the purposes of this Act A’s behaviour may be behaviour “towards” B despite the fact that it consists of conduct directed at another person (for example, B’s child).

6) References in this Act to being abusive towards another person are to be read in accordance with this section.

(7) For the meaning of “personally connected”, see section 2.

Section 2: Definition of “personally connected”

Two people are “personally connected” to each other if any of the following applies—
(a) they are, or have been, married to each other;
(b) they are, or have been, civil partners of each other;
(c) they have agreed to marry one another (whether or not the agreement has been
terminated);
(d) they have entered into a civil partnership agreement (whether or not the
agreement has been terminated);
(e) they are, or have been, in an intimate personal relationship with each other;
(f) they each have, or there has been a time when they each have had, a parental
relationship in relation to the same child (see subsection (2));
(g) they are relatives.

(2) For the purposes of subsection (1)(f) a person has a parental relationship in relation to a child if—
(a) the person is a parent of the child, or
(b) the person has parental responsibility for the child.

(3) In this section—
“child” means a person under the age of 18 years;
“civil partnership agreement” has the meaning given by section 73 of the Civil
Partnership Act 2004;
“parental responsibility” has the same meaning as in the Children Act 1989; “relative” has the meaning given by section 63(1) of the Family Law Act 1996.

THE OVERARCHING DOCUMENTS
So far so good: these amendments are now making coercive control more relevant to PA cases because they are now enveloping former relationships as well as current relationships.

However, there is potentially even more in store. If we now turn to the explanatory notes for coercive and controlling behaviour on page 13 paras 44 to 49. This is where the real excitement begins.

Controlling or coercive behaviour

44. Section 76 of the Serious Crime Act 2015 introduced the offence of controlling or coercive behaviour in an intimate or family relationship to recognise that victims can experience extreme psychological and emotional abuse that can have severe impacts, whether or not accompanied by physical abuse. The offence is constituted by behaviour between current intimate partners, or between former intimate partners and family members who live together.

45.What constitutes controlling or coercive behaviour is outlined in guidance issued by the Government under section 77 of the Serious Crime Act 2015. Controlling or coercive forms part of the Government’s non-statutory definition of domestic violence and abuse and is described as:
• Controlling behaviour is: a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour; and
Coercive behaviour is: an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.

46.Controlling or coercive behaviour also forms part of the definition of domestic abuse in section 1(3)(c) of the 2020 Act.

47.The statutory guidance framework issued under section 77 of the Serious Crime Act 2015 for the controlling or coercive behaviour offence can be found here.

48.Examples of controlling or coercive behaviour include:
• Controlling or monitoring the victim’s daily activities, including making them account for their time, dictating what they can wear, when they can eat;
• Isolating the victim from family and friends, intercepting messages or phone calls or refusing to interpret;
• Intentional undermining of the victim’s role as a partner, spouse or parent;
• Preventing the victim from taking medication or over-medicating them, or preventing the victim from accessing health or social care (especially relevant for victims with disabilities or long-term health conditions);
• Using substances to control a partner through dependency;
• Using children to control their partner, e.g. threatening to take the children away or manipulating professionals to increase the risk of children being removed into care;
Parental alienation, including preventing children from spending time with one parent or grandparents, from visiting friends’ houses and from participating in extracurricular activities;
• Threats to expose sensitive information (e.g. sexual activity) or make false allegations to family members, religious or local community including via photos or the internet;
• Preventing the victim from learning a language or making friends outside of their ethnic/ or cultural background;
• Threatening precarious immigration status against the victim, withholding documents, and giving false information to a victim about their visa or visa application;
• Threats of institutionalisation (particularly for disabled or elderly victims); and
Economic abuse (see paragraph 51).

49.As shown by the power and control wheel above, coercive or controlling behaviour is common in domestic abuse and can act as a driver for many of the other behaviours, as illustrated in the case study below.

Emotional or psychological abuse
50.Domestic abuse often involves emotional or psychological abuse. This can include:

• Manipulating a person’s anxieties or beliefs;
• Withholding affection;
• Turning children and friends against the victim (with a subsequent impact on children);
• Being stopped from seeing friends, relatives, or care workers;
• Being insulted, including in front of others. This includes insulting someone about their race, gender, sexual orientation, disability, faith, ability to parent and ability to work;
• Repeatedly being belittled;
• Keeping a victim awake/preventing them from sleeping;
• Using social media sites to intimidate the victim; and
Persuading a victim to doubt their own sanity or mind (including “gaslighting”).

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/…/Working_Together…

In short, under the bill, behaviours which could collectively be termed as parental alienation are now individually classed as emotionally abusive behaviour, controlling behaviour and coercive behaviour. Individual behaviours which would be considered as component behaviours to form an alienation diagnosis are individually classed as abusive and could warrant application of the punitive measures detailed in Part 3 of the new Act or a change of residence in their own right. Furthermore, Section 1 (3) assures parents, families courts and professionals that Behaviour is “abusive” if it consists of any of the following—

(a) physical or sexual abuse;
(b) violent or threatening behaviour;
(c) controlling or coercive behaviour;
(d) economic abuse (see subsection (4));
(e) Psychological, emotional or other abuse.

CONCLUSION
This will all take a little time to digest and we will need to study it thoroughly but in view of the absolute debacle of shoddily researched misinformation we have all been fed in the last few days we felt that it would be helpful to give readers the primary information in order to formulate their own opinions instead of relying upon untrustworthy and unreliable copy and pasters.

The bills and overarching documents square with and codify elements of the evolving caselaw. They appear to embody principles of landmark cases such as Re: L (A child) EWHC 867 (Fam) , which fell, ‘…short of attracting the labels “intractable hostility” or “parental alienation”.’ (para 1). In Re L the residence of a 9-year old boy was changed because he had suffered emotional harm. It was also recognised that the mother and grandmother’s lack of capacity to change risked worsening the harm already caused unless the boy’s residence was changed. It is notable that the court found the behaviour to be harmful below the threshold for psychological abuse set by the DSM. It also squares with the recent decision of the Court of Appeal in Re S (Parental Alienation: Cult) [2020] EWCA Civ 568 which focuses upon alienating behaviours as opposed to cumbersome and confusing umbrella labels.

It is important that we maintain a true and focussed aim on why we all work so hard to campaign for change. We are not interested in promoting a brand, promoting ourselves or obsessing about a concept for personal gain. We are interested in helping other parents and families recover their lost children back into their lives. We have managed that without this bill and the help it brings but it would have made our personal battles a lot easier if we had the support of the laws which this bill promotes.

By getting behind the bill and supporting it in its passage through Parliament during the months ahead we have the capacity and opportunity to make a huge and positive difference for our children and families. Having measures enshrined in laws, designed to protect children from non-accidental psychological injury and protect parents from coercive control and emotional abuse is something every human being should support without any reservations.

This article can also read on Linkedin. Emphasis we have added can be seen on this version.

#parentalalienation #abuse #domesticabuse #crime #families #protectmychild #familythugs

‘Scum controllers’ who just don’t care about you or their children

‘Scum controllers’ who just don’t care about you or their children

When allegations are made it doesn’t stop there in cases of parental alienation, says guest writer Andrew John Teague

That’s just the start.
Then comes the triangulation and manipulation
Whoever makes any allegation needs others to believe it.
It’s vital they roll-out the upper hand and control others .
The problem when allegations are made within the arena of post separation most of the victims of the allegations are desperate to see their children – and this allows the controlling of others to spread. And the victim sits tight in desperation
It’s not uncommon in everyday life.

Sadly, it’s far easier for the one making allegations in any group or work place because they are already aligned with others in control.
Any allegations made that are untrue are set out to damage and manipulate and are malicious.
What comes next is disturbing and complete controlling.
It may be friend, colleague’s or family – there are no boundaries.
Sometimes this is all done to bolster their stance on being the better person. The controllers are dastardly cowards, the scum who feed and leech on others
You wont find remorse or empathy – they simply do not a care
Many of you will have examples of this around you even if you don’t actually see it.

#scum ##parentalalienation #controllers #saveourchildren #narcissists #liars #cheats

I Never Did Plan To Go Anyway… to Black Diamond Bay

I Never Did Plan To Go Anyway… to Black Diamond Bay

No-one ever seems to talk about Black Diamond Bay, and I often wonder why – never more so than one morning recently, when I was listening to the song for the umpteenth time on my way to work, and came to a realisation about the lyric that has been staring me in the face for all the decades I have been listening to it.

There is just one idea that holds the whole narrative of the song together: it is a series of negations and rejections.

The characters in the song reject or negate each other in every single interaction it describes.

They even negate themselves.

A “voice from the gambling room” calls to the woman in the Panama hat, and “She smiles, walks the other way.” The Greek “asks for a rope and a pen that will write”, and the desk clerk, carefully removing his fez, questions whether he has heard the Greek correctly.

The woman in the Panama hat “starts to speak” to the Greek on the staircase “but he walks away”.

The soldier buys a ring from the “tiny man” who will later bite the soldier’s ear, and the ring, which “cost a grand” “ain’t enough” for the recipient of the marriage proposal.

The “loser in the gambling room” wants to play another hand, but the dealer tells him to listen to the ominous sound of the rain. The island itself is deserted by the cranes and the moon.

The woman ignores the “do not disturb” sign on the Greek’s door, knocks “on it anyway”, and shouts “I’ve got to talk to someone quick”, but the Greek just keeps on hanging himself from the chandelier. The desk clerk isn’t interested in the subject of forbidden love because “it happens every day”.

The loser breaks the bank in the gambling room, but it’s “too late now” because the island is exploding. The stranger proposes to the woman, but she ignores him and begins to pray, because when a volcano is erupting, who wouldn’t?

And then, there is the total genius of the beginning and the end of the song. The narrator hears of the fate of this new Krakatoa being Cronkited on the news, and concludes that it “Didn’t seem like much was happening”, that this was just “another hard-luck story/ And there’s really nothing anyone can say”, and he wasn’t planning to go to Black Diamond Bay anyway.

All that is left is the hanged Greek’s shoes, and the Panama hat of a woman whose passport photograph bore no resemblance to her real self. Everybody is nobody, and everybody turns away from everybody else, only to find that they don’t recognise their own selves.

It’s one of the best and funniest satires on modern disconnection, but nobody ever seems to talk about ‘Black Diamond Bay’.

Funny, that.

#blackdiamondbay #thegreek #panamahat #exactlylikethat #bobdylan

THE LAST POST FOR SERVICE IN BLIGHTY

THE LAST POST FOR SERVICE IN BLIGHTY

Here’s the latest in my wretched dealings with those people – and things – who are supposed to help make our lives a bit easier in a crisis. This time time it’s the Post Office and their home insurance package.

This is what happened – our gardener, a young and amorous kick-boxing champion with ambitions to be a cage fighting star, was cutting the weeds he’d cultivated in what was once our kitchen herb garden.

Suddenly the glass in one of the patio doors shattered into grand gleaming spider]s webs while emitting eerie brittle groans.

Our gardener, who despite his youth is built like a brick outhouse, let out a girly scream and looked at me in shock. I smiled back at him wanly.

Andrea who was hanging out the washing in the noon-day sun turned and was shocked to see two men looking at each other with trembling knees and frozen half smiles.

Then she saw the patio door and sighed like a deflating balloon. It hadn’t been a brilliant day in so many ways, but mainly because of the ongoing row with the builder over who owns all the rubbish in the barn they are about to take down.

They say its mine because I once owned the barn and I say its theirs because they bought the barn off me two years ago! Strangely they were refusing to take it down until its emptied. This is no skin off my noose, I’d rather have the barn than the building site they are going to replace it with.

Andrea sighed: “Never rains but it pours does it.”

Our manly gardener quivered and said: “It wasn’t me, I was trimming the plants with my back to it!”

All I could think of saying was: “Ooh eck!”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FoqMxGnQY8I

So it was off into the house to phone the Post Office to see if we were insured for a self-destructing patio door.

I got a machine. It asked for my policy number which was 14 digits long … “111100124678-01” …

The machine asked me if I meant “101112456776”. I said no so it asked me to repeat the number … it was man against machine for four minutes while me and a female robot argued over my number.

Next. it wanted my name “Leigh Banks – that’s LEIGH” … the machine asked: “Did you say Leigh BanksLegurhh?” I said “No, Leigh Banks.”

“Did you say Leonard Benchley?”

“Did you say Leg Bonks?”

That went on for a further six minutes until the robot woman got fed up and hung up on me. A couple of minutes later what I took to be a real human being answered the phone: “Hello Post Office insurance, how may I help you?”

“Can you tell me if I’m covered for kamikaze patio doors? I don’t want to make a claim necessarily just see if I can if I decide to.”

He asked for my policy number, name and address, age, date of birth, last claim, mother’s maiden name, how long I had lived at the address, was it my permanent residence? On and on and on we went.

Then he thanked me, paused, seemed to be checking something and came back.

He said: “I’m afraid I can’t tell you that sir.”


For a fleeting moment I thought he was going to quote the Data Protection Act at me but he hadn’t thought it through that far.

What in fact he said was this: “You have to read your policy I’m afraid.”

“But can’t you look it up for me, I’ve just spent half half the day talking rubbish with a builder and playing who-said-wot with your robot woman, that is until she got bored with me and hung up.”

“I’m sorry sir, but I can’t give you that information.”

“Well, how do I find out if I can make a claim if I’ve lost my policy documents?”

And this is what he said: “What you have to do sir is make a claim and in a few days you find out if it is going to pay out – then you’ll know if you’re insured or not.”

“But I don’t know if I want to make a claim yet. I want to know if I;’ll lose my no claims and how much excess I might have and if I can make a claim.”

“I’m sorry sir, I can;’t tell you that. You need to make a claim. Can I help you in any other way?”

I was wrong when I said I thought he was human.

I said: “If I make a claim to find out if I’m insured or not and it turns out that I’m not insured for a smashed patio door which means I’ve made a claim which has been refused – will that remain on my records as a claim and will I lose my no claims anyway.”

His brain clicked but didn’t bother to whirr. He seemed to click for an age … then he said: “I’m sorry sir, I can’t tell you that. Would you like me to put you through to customer services. They’ll be able to help.”

It’s a true story!

#kickboxing #garden #patio #UKservice #soundbreakingglass #insurance #homeinsurance #postoffice