Five years stuck on my eyes … seeing the horrors of PA, family courts and Cafcass

WRITTEN BY ANDREW JOHN TEAGUE …

D.A.D.S. Five Years. The highs and lows … and yes, there have sure been many lows.

So, we must always recognised the highs.

Don’t forget the many contacts back in place, the many happy smiling little faces. THIS IS PRICELESS.

Many parents are still here today too thanks to the support and help of so many. But, always there is more to be done. So much more.

There are so many more children and families to reunite. So many children for us to be the voice of, to stand up and fight for.

There is no doubt in my mind that parental alienation is the most horrific journey any parent, grandparent or family has to travel.

It’s the 21st Century and still parents having to fight to be parents, parents dying to be parents. Along the journey, the trauma, the instability – not only the parents minds also that of the children.

Who are we?

We are parents, we are not gods, we cannot work miracles. We get very little in our times of trouble but we keep on keeping on.

There is the naivety of some who often shout ‘avoid the family courts’. In reality, there are no choices if you are the absent parent and you wish to see your children, family courts are your only option.

Normally, all other options have been exhausted, sometimes even leading too police involvement. Example: simply contacting your ex to ask how your child is can lead to an order against you.

Going to the school can be seen as stalking, harassing. Or both.

We have been extremely lucky to have Leigh G Banks and Andrea Martin who have helped us for four years.

Posting out hundreds of articles, following progress and helping us raise the awareness.

It’s thanks to the likes of Leigh who has continued stand side-by-side with us. Been there with us through the highs and the lows.

Tough times indeed. Even though over times there have been some who have attacked and nothing short of abused I’m honoured to say our good friend Leigh G Banks has been there continuing to help raise the much needed awareness.

For that I have the utmost respect for both Leigh and Andrea. If we did nothing more parents would pass, more children would be broken. But the cycle will continue. It’s massively important we raise the awareness and we educate.

Dedicate to educate is something we believe in and stand by. Five years dredging the stinking trenches of the family courts.

The last place on Earth any absent parent wants to be.

Many desperately try every avenue to avoid judges more like Warlords, listening to court jesters Cafcass, completely forgetting the best interest of the children and exploring nothing.

The non-accidental psychological injury and the children ‘umbrella’ term. A child is deliberately being used to gain ground to get what they want for monetary gain in family courts.

There is no doubt the child is being emotionally harmed and, in many cases, psychologically put at Risk Factor High.

The likelihood is children will end up with mental health issues. If there is ever a need for prevention being The Cure it’s right here behind the secret family court doors. The family courts dirty little secrets, the family courts failures. Beneath every failure there are children Approximately 100,000 cases go to the family courts.

That’s approximately a quarter of The Million Children here in the UK, every year entrenched in long court disasters.

I have seen many memes about how no-one will ever know what it’s like unless they’ve been in it.

This I can assure you is so so true.

Parents having to learn along the way many lost so much, many nothing left, litigating in person, struggling mentally and physically.

Some with Learning difficulties, some clinging on for dear life.

The immense pain parents go through is unbelievable. Approximately six years ago I made a vow to the stand up for every child who got caught in the tyranny.

One day the scandals will break and people were see they were witness to barbaric atrocities. This what healthy loving caring parents and grandparents and family go through daily.

Imagine if you can struggling mentally and many with PTSD and feeling and having no help. Many people may say go to the GP. People outside the family courts may well feel better if encouraged to go to the GP.

Sadly, people the court arena are petrified – they’re scared to death, a fear the courts will drive them into mental health.

First the absent parent will be driven into mental health issues through a barbaric, draconian system then the courts will use the issues against them.

Shocking, staggering how many bullies, thugs and emotional terrorists there are behind the family court doors.

Sorry the secret family court doors. a Civil Justice private law that is not fit for purpose.

Pushing through the market square
So many mothers sighing (sighing)
News had just come over
We had five years left to cry in (cry in)
News guy wept and told us
Earth was really dying (dying)
Cried so much his face was wet
Then I knew he was not lying (lying)I heard telephones, opera house, favorite melodies
I saw boys, toys, electric irons and TV’s
My brain hurt like a warehouse, it had no room to spare
I had to cram so many things to store everything in there
And all the fat, skinny people
And all the tall, short people
And all the nobody people
And all the somebody people
I never thought I’d need so many peopleA girl my age went off her head
Hit some tiny children
If the Black hadn’t have pulled her off
I think she would have killed them
A soldier with a broken arm
Fixed his stare to the wheels of a Cadillac
A cop knelt and kissed the feet of a priest
And a queer threw up at the sight of that
I think I saw you in an ice-cream parlor
Drinking milk shakes cold and long
Smiling and waving and looking so fine
Don’t think you knew you were in this song
And it was cold and it rained, so I felt like an actor
And I thought of Ma and I wanted to get back there
Your face, your race, the way that you talk
I kiss you, you’re beautiful, I want you to walkWe’ve got five years, stuck on my eyes
Five years, what a surprise
We’ve got five years, my brain hurts a lot
Five years, that’s all we’ve gotWe’ve got five years, what a surprise
Five years, stuck on my eyes
We’ve got five years, my brain hurts a lot
Five years, that’s all we’ve gotWe’ve got five years, stuck on my eyes
Five years, what a surprise
We’ve got five years, my brain hurts a lot
Five years, that’s all we’ve gotWe’ve got five years, what a surprise
We’ve got five years, stuck on my eyes
We’ve got five years, my brain hurts a lot
Five years, that’s all we’ve gotFive years
Five years
Five years
Five years

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By Leigh Banks

I am a journalist, writer and broadcaster ... lately I've been concentrating on music, I spent many years as a music critic and a travel writer ... I gave up my last editorship a while ago and started concentrating on my blog. I was also asked to join AirTV International as a co host of a new show called Postcard ...

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