We are bullied, terrorised, criminalised, traumatised, lost, empty, deflated, exhausted, worthless, frustrated, stressed, depressed, unhappy. Suicidal
BY ANDREW JOHN TEAGUE
Six years ago I opened D.A.D.s having seen the need to ensure children are put first (writes Andrew John Teague).
Ever since I’ve spent as much time as possible helping, supporting and saving poor souls who say: “I can’t take any more.”
We are an open group for a number of reasons – it’s far easier for anyone to find us and post if they need help as a matter of urgency.
A dad or mum lost is devastating for anyone. And the children left behind.
There is nothing almighty about personally saving hundreds of parents life. It is FACT!
During the times gone by we have been made aware of so many who, along the way, have taken their lives.
Sadly. most never even knew there are groups willing to help and support.
CONTACT DENIAL
What is contact denial for me? I see it possibly the worst way of ill-treating the absent parent and child/children.
Often the aligned parent is looking for attention CONTROL with no regard or remorse.
Being told you can’t see your child/children is barbaric and defies the meaning family.
CONTROLLING PARENTS GAINS
Tax credit
Benefits
Cms payments
Ultimate control
WHY OH WHY
CONTROL
REVENGE
BITTERNESS
ANGER
RAGE
JEALOUSY
DRAMA
FACT
Often I see posting with the word ‘fact’ yet see that it’s simply not, it’s self representation by some.
Six years of being on the horrific side of the child abuse gives me enough knowledge and proof to state contact denial kills.
Even after gaining what our daughter longed for – her dad – I have still been helping supporting in court and out of court.
1000s and 1000s of parents desperate for hope, a little faith as the clutches of ex partners and a broken system rain down the hurt and pain on the first unexpected mums and dads.
After all the hope of family court fills parents at the start with hope.
FAMILY COURTS
The judges expect the courts to be the ultimate last resort when it comes to CAO (contact arrangement order).
Yet it is more common for them to be the first port of call. Absent parents have exhausted all methods before entering into the family court Arena
FAILED ATTEMPTS
The ex
Family members
Friends
Mediation
Often some of these fails can end up with the active parent seeking contact having a stay away order placed on them causing even further delays.
ABSENT PARENTS POSITION IN FAMILY COURTS
The absent parent comes into the family court on the back foot. More often than not the absent parent feels targetted not only by the obvious the aligned parent but also others behind the secret family court doors.
ABSENT PARENTS FEEL
BULLIED
TERRORISED
CRIMINALISED
TRAUMATISED
LOST
EMPTY
DEFLATED
EXHAUSTED
WORTHLESS
FRUSTRATED
STRESSED
DEPRESSED
UNHAPPY
MENTALLY DRAINED.
SUICIDE
Many parents feel suicidal when going through the trauma of contact denial/family courts.
The reality is there is not a shred of care from anyone within the draconian barbaric family courts.
We can never forget the feeling of utter despair when the contact denial gets more and more painful.
There is never a truer saying the only way anyone will ever know is if they have been in it .
I have and I will never forget how it tortured our daughter and myself.
Our daughter got through it because I fought for her every time and kept my focus
Learned researched and was able to challenge
It’s not easy parents emotions are all over the place causing the PTSD.
WORSE
The times of the year we have to be on guard even more
Christmas
Birthdays
Mothers day
Fathers day
Any special occasion
They are all triggers
Even a specific song, film, store, holiday place can be a trigger
There have been so many times I have seen or heard I can’t take it any more, so so many.
FAMILY COURT TIME
Sadly and the reality family courts take far to long extinguishing time time children don’t have.
We do our best to help parents get through and back in contact as quickly as they can.
Time is of the essence
We have seen many many children reunited with the absent parent as parents learn
Most parents so eventually regain contact
Sadly there are some who don’t and many come into it the newbies
Never give up your children need you DON’T turn things onto your children (often unknown to the absent parent)
Keep your focus on your child/children
Reach out don’t hesitate remember we have been there we are on the same journey
#keeponkeepingon
#nochildchoosestoloseaparent