Narcissists are sick people, alright… sick as people can get. And they are on every street corner and in your bed…
A Greek youth was so taken by the reflection of his own face he was scared to ever look away again.
Narcissus had found the true love he was willing to die for.
But Echo, a nymph with a speech impediment caused by unrequited love, spotted him in the woods. Down by the lake. She was smitten by him immediately but could not speak it.
And she couldn’t see Narcissus was already staring his own death in the face.
Soon, he died from the neglect of all the love waiting in the world around him.
Echo faded away like the dying toll of a church bell.
But Narcissus, a grave-train robber and twisted mind by any other name, was reincarnated as a flower.
The Narcissus bloom.
It is said it gives us numbness and the big sleep.
Sadly, today though his despicable spirit is still here and reflecting a dark nightmarish pool at so many of us.
Look around, Narcissus may be sleeping in your bed tonight, he may be the one with a liquid grin down the local, he might be giving you advice behind a sheet of sanitised Perspex, he may be whistling at the wheel of the school bus – or he could be like Elvis, frying tonight down the fish n chip shop.
Narcissus is out there, waiting to drown you with his eyes.
This story of Narcissus and Echo is not a moral tale you know. And neither is it a romance… it is simply a salutary one about empty people, flat and one dimensional, those who can see nothing but themselves.
Male and female, young and old.
I’ve had three narcissists in my life. One in childhood, one wife and one business partner. I despise each one of them for what they did to me and my family.
I have forgiven them, more or less, but I still despise them for their lies, their manipulation, their disrespect and their inability to comprehend love outside themselves.
Here’s a list of the traits of these emotional traitors, those lost in a world of self-seeking fantasy.
See how many you recognise – I saw each and every one in each of my abusers:
- Narcissists get mad at you for no reason at all.
- They are always right.
- They have very fragile egos and are unable to self-reflect on their own weaknesses.
- Sadly, we think we can help them get right. We can’t.
- You will never get the truth out of a narcissist.
- Narcissists will only play ‘victim or hero’.
- Narcissist loves a good argument. The more they attack you, the more opportunities they have to break you, insult you, and get their own way.
- The narcissist withdraws love and spends time with other people. They can become passive-aggressive, they gaslight, they make you question everything about yourself and your sanity.
- They use name calling to hurt you.
- When you realise what they are, they will do everything to discredit you.
Do you know, everyone thinks differently, feels differently and behaves in their own way.
That’s personality – some of us have it, some of us have it to a lesser extent. Some of us, it’s said, have none at all!
But Narcissists think they have personality in bundles … what they don’t see is that their personality is disordered, bizarre, cruel and cold.
Disorderly hits the victim straight in the emotions, dictates how you cope with life, and manage relationships. You can develop depression or anxiety.
About one in twenty of us apparently live with a personality disorder.
Some narcissists though identify their tendencies of selfishness and
work hard to avoid it. But they will often fail because of their neurological limitations.
On the other hand, “bad” narcissists do not have any kind of concern or reaction to the impact of their behaviour.
They show the same traits as a psychopath.
What may really throw you too is that narcissists can be extremely charming. They can be perceived as very caring people due to their social charm.
At first, you find them to be intelligent and kind, but later you may see this complete shift in personality. This shift in personality can become punishing, cold and calculated, leaving the victim feeling very confused and questioning what they did wrong.
Remember, none of this is YOUR fault! This is a personality disorder that has nothing to do with you.
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