2021, the year of freedom? The virus of pain for our children
BY GUEST WRITER ANDREW JOHN TEAGUE
There are many things the last year of lockdown has exposed:
Children’s mental health and awareness is affected by Covid-19.
Lock-down is affecting family life in general
Such a small bug can bring most of the world to its knees.
Domestic violence is up because of lock-down.
Child abuse went up as families were forced into lock-down.
Yes, we now have to look at this brave new world with a different set of eyes.
But what else do we learn? So many things, I guess … climate control and how clean the air has become.
Black lives matter … but we should be also looking at the fact ALL lives matter. Yes it is a new world! Clear vision, 20/20 vision.
But don’t forget this world is made up of different sections, different beliefs and different people. Yep, that’s what we have all around the world.
Difference.
But while all this happening, never ever forget the children … the real heart of the matter.
We must also spend time helping and supporting parents, grandparents and all other family members.
#dedicatetoeducate. dedicate educate something we all have to open our hearts to.
D.A.D.s and NAAP are sectors dedicated to educating a system. And there are various sectors of this system too. There are the obvious – judges, CAFCASS, social workers, lawyers and barristers.
Then there are others – psychologist, schools and experts.
The emotional and psychological harm that children are put through because of the family court process causes lifelong trauma.
Stay with me, the reason for this article will become clear.
Covid-19 has shown us how children’s mental health is suffering. The NSPCC has recently stated that there has been a quadrupling in contact from children due to stress and anxiety.
Children out of school for almost 14 weeks children and they have also been kept away from family members and their friends.
All this and more because of a tiny virus.
Lessons to be learned: Isolation.
It’s certainly not good for the children’s mental health and well-being. We hear of the concerns by others, some involved in the family courts.
Children are being forced away from, not just one parent, but a whole half all the family unit.
Well, what we can tell you is that there are an array of issues relating to mental health and well-being of children because of the inappropriate behaviour of parents and the failure of the lower courts.
It certainly seems that for decades it was easier to ignore than it was to learn the lessons.
Often these words are used and I’ll quote; ‘We are sorry, we learn the lessons … ‘ The famous words used by Social Services.
Sadly, these words are normally used after a serious incident involving children or young adults – death, serious injury, serious failings. But do they learn the lessons?
Sadly, not very often.
Yes, Covid-19 is here and it is showing us that lessons have to be learned.
A single child being used as a weapon, a pawn, leverage, whatever, in the family courts will certainly be emotionally and psychologically harmed.
Look at a single child who has been indoctrinated (brainwashed), denigrated , suffered adultification for a period of three months … well, it could take an expert three to six months to even begin to get a child to feel comfortable again. Enough to speak truthfully at least.
Children’s minds are being warped and twisted.
What is very interesting is no one has mentioned just how important schools are when children are going through post-separation. In many cases the safety net for these children is the school.
And teachers, it doesn’t take Einstein realise children are in despair.
2020, a Clear Vision – let’s make this a time to join together an address ALL problems.
The future is our children!
A child should be allowed to dream, have fantasies, think about what they want to be when they grow up. They should be full of joy and happiness.
Dedicate, educate – something we know will take time but at least we are looking to the children’s future.
Unless there is risk of significant harm, then children should share time with both parents, with both family members.
How traumatic is it for a child? How psychologically abusing is it for a child being forced to choose?
The non-accidental psychological injury of a child/children is abuse. Parental alienation is abuse. The child-splitting is abuse. The courts should not tolerate it!
But, sadly, we find the courts actually promote and reward it.
If the injuries were visible would they tolerate it? Certainly NOT!