By Andrew John Teague
A message to parents – keep on keeping on.
We know your pain.
We know when the special times come around the feelings are amplified.
This time Easter but can be anytime
Please reach out we are here to lend a hand
1. Contact denial.
2. Mental health.
3. Psychological injury
4. Frustration
5. Not fit for purpose
6. High risk of suicide
Contact denial.
Post separation when there is the estrangement bitterness jealously or the war on want.
Very often this is brought about by the failure to agree any contact.
Though most people co parent and get on with it there are those who simply can not.
This leads to children being used in parents disputes.
Innocent forgotten children not one of them wishes to be used not one wants to choose a parent. This is the entrenchment brought about by parents and inevitably family courts.
Throughout groups and pages on social media we see the parents who speak of loss. Grieving hurting suffering prolonged agony and torture. For me it is seeing far beyond and understanding the children their loss pain suffering heartbreak and being forced.
Contact denial is without a doubt child abuse when there are no safeguarding issues. Healthy loving caring parents denied contact often including the grandparents and extended family.
#childrenfirsteverytime
Mental health
Hell yes of course how can any parent endure the barrage of abuse reigned against them. Ex partner they once loved and indeed some still do and the family secret courts who spend much of their time bullying and terrorising the all ready targetted parent. The easy most of the targeted parents font have lawyers.
Unlike many ex who use allegations to gain legal. Stress anxiety depression unable to function the easiest tasks become mammoth tasks eating disorders sleeping disorders low self esteem hell yes mental health.
Millions are spent to raise awareness on mental health and encourage people to speak out and seek help for their mental health. Oh except family courts who often drive parents into mental health then wait a minute use it against them oh indeed mental health. Not only that many are then expected to litigate in person. Having to learn as they go if they even can. Must point out here that also the children’s mental health is under constant attack with serious concerns on their future.
Psychological injury in the child
This is disgusting form of child abuse. More often than not brought on by a controlling parent. Can also be grandparents family members or indeed new partners. The term the non accidental pysical injury on the child is all ready being used in the courts. This should be extended to the non accidental psychological injury in the child. Child abuse the psychological injury in the child is horrific and has life long affects. Even as adults what happens to these children has a profound damaging aspect in the aligned families dynamics. Evevitably the high risk of serious mental health historic and the cycle continues. Children should be helped under the mental health and well-being save before its far far far to late.
Frustration
Often by professionals targetted parents Frustrations are mistaken for anger. When really would we or even could we blame any parent for feeling angry. Court cases go on for months into years with the strangest tales to tell. A good point woukd be put the so called professionals on anger management courses help them to avoid driving parents to feeling frustrated and angry prevention is always the best cure get them to learn instead of transfixing on the one side.
#childrensmentalhealth
Not fit for purpose
Family courts with the aid of fca(family court advisors) likes of cafcass. Cause more family break ups and child trauma than anything else. Certainly not fit for purpose when all avenues should be explored. Behind secret family courst this is often not the case not on your nelly. Instead there are those behind the family court who shield behind yhe children using the terms such as in the best interest or childs wishes and feelings. Remember many of the cases go on for months if not years. While the undue influence is the very controlling parent causing the child trauma. Often adultifying the children brainwashing causing the child to denigrate the other parent often forc8ng the child to be more like the parent and using them as their vessel to erradicate or control the targetted parent. Children often align with the controlling parent out of fear or control also as a means to cope the chikd may reject contact. Every opportunity every avenue explored not in family courts behind the secret doors.
High risk of suicide/suicide
Many parents have taken their life over the decades. There is no doubt in my belief having been through this twice. Damned straight it has a high impact on parents mental health. The potential to cause the suicide of parents and long-term potentially the children as they get older. Parents feel so depleted so empty so lost and feel the pain of their children. All they want is to get away from the agony torture heartbreak.
If we ask any healthy loving caring parent how the feel about being denied contact they will all say it is killing the.
Driven to suicide by a draconian system not fit for purpose.
#suicideawareness #parentalalienation #dads #mums #fathers #children #mothers #family courts
