Court in pain …100s of ‘alienated’ lives saved in dad’s six year fight for our kids

We are bullied, terrorised, criminalised, traumatised, lost, empty, deflated, exhausted, worthless, frustrated, stressed, depressed, unhappy. Suicidal

BY ANDREW JOHN TEAGUE

Six years ago I opened D.A.D.s having seen the need to ensure children are put first (writes Andrew John Teague).

Ever since I’ve spent as much time as possible helping, supporting and saving poor souls who say: “I can’t take any more.”

We are an open group for a number of reasons – it’s far easier for anyone to find us and post if they need help as a matter of urgency.

A dad or mum lost is devastating for anyone. And the children left behind.

There is nothing almighty about personally saving hundreds of parents life. It is FACT!

During the times gone by we have been made aware of so many who, along the way, have taken their lives.

Sadly. most never even knew there are groups willing to help and support.

CONTACT DENIAL

What is contact denial for me? I see it possibly the worst way of ill-treating the absent parent and child/children.

Often the aligned parent is looking for attention CONTROL with no regard or remorse.

Being told you can’t see your child/children is barbaric and defies the meaning family.

CONTROLLING PARENTS GAINS 

Tax credit 

Benefits 

Cms payments 

Ultimate control 

WHY OH WHY

CONTROL 

REVENGE 

BITTERNESS 

ANGER 

RAGE 

JEALOUSY 

DRAMA

FACT

Often I see posting with the word ‘fact’ yet see that it’s simply not, it’s self representation by some. 

Six years of being on the horrific side of the child abuse gives me enough knowledge and proof to state contact denial kills. 

Even after gaining what our daughter longed for – her dad – I have still been helping supporting in court and out of court.

1000s and 1000s of parents desperate for hope, a little faith as the clutches of ex partners and a broken system rain down the hurt and pain on the first unexpected mums and dads.

After all the hope of family court fills parents at the start with hope. 

FAMILY COURTS

The judges expect the courts to be the ultimate last resort when it comes to CAO (contact arrangement order).

Yet it is more common for them to be the first port of call. Absent parents have exhausted all methods before entering into the family court Arena

FAILED ATTEMPTS 

The ex 

Family members 

Friends 

Mediation 

Often some of these fails can end up with the active parent seeking contact having a stay away order placed on them causing even further delays.

ABSENT PARENTS POSITION IN FAMILY COURTS

The absent parent comes into the family court on the back foot. More often than not the absent parent feels targetted not only by the obvious the aligned parent but also others behind the secret family court doors.

ABSENT PARENTS FEEL

BULLIED 

TERRORISED 

CRIMINALISED 

TRAUMATISED 

LOST 

EMPTY 

DEFLATED 

EXHAUSTED 

WORTHLESS 

FRUSTRATED 

STRESSED 

DEPRESSED 

UNHAPPY 

MENTALLY DRAINED.

SUICIDE 

Many parents feel suicidal when going through the trauma of contact denial/family courts.

The reality is there is not a shred of care from anyone within the draconian barbaric family courts.

We can never forget the feeling of utter despair when the contact denial gets more and more painful.

There is never a truer saying the only way anyone will ever know is if they have been in it .

I have and I will never forget how it tortured our daughter and myself.

Our daughter got through it because I fought for her every time and kept my focus

Learned researched and was able to challenge 

It’s not easy parents emotions are all over the place causing the PTSD. 

WORSE

The times of the year we have to be on guard even more 

Christmas

Birthdays 

Mothers day 

Fathers day 

Any special occasion 

They are all triggers 

Even a specific song, film, store, holiday place can be a trigger 

There have been so many times I have seen or heard I can’t take it any more, so so many.

FAMILY COURT TIME

Sadly and the reality family courts take far to long extinguishing time time children don’t have. 

We do our best to help parents get through and back in contact as quickly as they can.

Time is of the essence 

We have seen many many children reunited with the absent parent as parents learn 

Most parents so eventually regain contact 

Sadly there are some who don’t and many come into it the newbies 

Never give up your children need you DON’T turn things onto your children (often unknown to the absent parent)

Keep your focus on your child/children 

Reach out don’t hesitate remember we have been there we are on the same journey

#keeponkeepingon 

#nochildchoosestoloseaparent